How and Why IVF (In Vitro Fertilization)

I know there are so many people going through the IVF(In Vitro Fertilization) process. And I am one of them. It was one big hard decision to make, but I wanted to share my experience so that anyone else might benefit from this. This is my first blog and I apologies if anything is wrong in here.

Let me first start off with why IVF, if you are reading this then sure you might have done lot of research and now you are at a final stage of IVF being the only option. It took me several painful (mentally) years to figure out the problem and to find what needs to be done.  Initially I was all over figuring out my problem for more than 2 years, trying to meet gynecologist, going for several counseling, reading lot of thing, trying different ways to get in to relationship as I am not in a sexual relationship with my husband.  Still I am not 100 % sure what’s the problem, the final clue was it might be because of Low testosterone level. So I was trying to fix my relationship problem and years passed by with no luck, and I wanted to take some decision, so one of my friend told me about IUI(Intrauterine insemination), and it took 6 month to decide between whether to fix the relationship problem or to go for a baby as I was scared that bringing a baby would bring still more gap between us and there might be a good chance that I may not be able fix my relationship problem. Finally we took the decision of going for IUI.

We went to see a specialist and he said it’s a simple process, I asked him if it’s a painful process I being still virgin. He started examine and it was mentally and physically hell lot of painful, he couldn't do anything. He suggested me to use a tampon or a dilator and he said I have to dilate or else it’s not possible or I have to go for surgery. He also referred a doctor for Sperm test for my husband. That day was really bad with emotions. But I had long way to go.

Problem never stops, now I was trying to use dilator, and I dint know how to use it. Again started reading about it and to be very frank I dint know where my vagina was, after long struggle and repetitive try I was successfully able use 2 of 6 sizes of the dilator. I count go beyond that. Meanwhile my husband booked appointment with a doctor for a sperm test. The results came back after 2 months, saying there are some problems. So he booked another appointment and tested again based on Doctor’s suggestion that the result might vary at different times. 2 weeks later the 2^nd test came back with the same results, so doctor told him that IUI is not an option and he wanted us to go for IVF if we are planning for a baby, and then come back again for fixing the relationship problem because treating the relationship problem might affect the IVF problem as sperm count might get affected.

Now, we finally decided to go for IVF. Even before that, I started reading about IVF and talking to my close friends about the expectations, process etc. When I read about IVF, I was scared about both physical and mental pain to go through this. And finally, decided to go for a baby. And That how My IVF process started.

Some links:

ivf-process-getting-started

In vitro fertilization Guide

What to expect during IVF

IUI And IVF